Need a Life Coach or Self-Help Guide? Try the Bible

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People unhappy with the state or direction of their life often turn to self-help books, seminars, or coaching by so-called “life coaches.” But if you’re looking for the ultimate formula for fulfillment and happiness – try reading the Bible.

Seeking fulfillment

“Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act.”

– Psalm 37:4-5

Everyone has those moments in life where they feel frustrated. Perhaps they are unhappy with where they are, unclear on where they are going, or inpatient about how long it’s taking to get there

A lot of people, when they feel they can’t make something happen, or happen fast enough, on their own, reach out for help. Enter the life coach…

The problem with life coaching & self-help teaching

“I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my eye upon you.”

–Psalm 32:8

The need by people to seek help from others and “fixing” their life is why the “self-help” industry is both huge and lucrative. In turn, this has created a booming market for so-called “life coaches.” Life coaches dish out help either in books, materials or in one-on-one coaching.

But a larger problem is that the self-help industry promises fulfillment, success and wealth. While the former is internal, the latter two are external. They also can be fickle, temporary, and beyond your control, which doesn’t make for lasting fulfillment.

But the ultimate manual for “life coaching” has been around for some 2,700 years: The Bible.

Why is your life not working?

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.

– Philippians 4:6

If you are feeling unhappy or unfulfilled in life you need to start with self-examination. Sometimes our lives are actually working, but we don’t see it. A common problem is having the wrong expectations. You may already have a lot to be thankful, grateful and humble for. You may be unhappy over things you want when you already have all you really need.

The only things you truly need are those which ensure your survival: Food, shelter, clothing. It’s when we set our expectations beyond the necessities that we can set ourselves up for disappointment and unhappiness. Priorities are health and family.

In some cases, people are their own worst enemy. Their actions and words create a life of turmoil. They fall victim to the so-called deadly sins: pride, greed, lust, envy, gluttony, wrath, and sloth.

It’s a scientific law of the universe that every action causes a reaction. You can’t expect positive reactions to come from negative actions. The same rule applies to your thoughts. Your thoughts create your actions. But thoughts also create your perceptions. And when you have misguided thoughts – they may not necessarily be reality.

“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”

– Philippians 4:8

The ultimate life coach

The Bible concentrates on “fixing” the heart and mind. It is the only place where true fulfillment can be developed.

“All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.”

– 2 Timothy 3:16

In conclusion, you may not need a life coach. You can find all the guidance you need for fulfillment and happiness within the pages of the Bible.