Grief is something every human being experiences. Psychology tells us it has five stages and offers methods for dealing with these feelings. Reading the Bible provides a strong addition to the process of long-term coping.
During this stage, the grieving person is in denial of the event. They feel avoidance, confusion, fear, shock or even elation.
The grieving person is angry at the situation, feeling frustrated, irritated and experiencing anxiety.
During this stage, the grieving person looks for ways to “bargain” their way out of the predicament to get life back to the way it was. They may try to make a deal with God or a higher power, the universe, etc. They also play the “what if” game with themselves, as if the situation could have been avoided “if they only did [blank].”
During this stage, the grief sets in. The person feels depressed and helpless. They may become hostile. They may “escape” or take flight.
The grieving person finally accepts the situation. They begin to explore their options. They make plans for how to move on with their life.
“Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.”
–1 Peter 5:7
One of the methods used by organizations helping people recover from addictions and substance abuse is to ask that person to reach out to a higher power. This becomes especially important when we are grieving.
We only need to look at the universe around us and realize there is something much bigger than ourselves at work in the creation of all that exists.
The loss we feel from grief can last a lifetime. It may get easier to handle with time, but it’s always there. We can have difficult moments. Life events can trigger our feelings of grief to resurface at any time throughout our lives. Like anything, we sometimes need something to help us get through the rough patches. There is nothing that surpasses the Bible for rebuilding comfort and hope.
The foremost because of human grief is the death of a loved one. The Bible tells us:
“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;”
– Ecclesiastes 3:1-2
Every living thing dies. It is an inescapable process. But that doesn’t necessarily make the pain of losing our departed loved ones any easier.
However, The Bible tells us there are two kinds of death. The physical death human beings experience on earth is not final. We are immortal souls. Our spirit moves to a new plane of existence after death. In this realm, Jesus Christ tells us:
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.”
The Bible tells us that the loss of our loved ones isn’t permanent. We will see them again when we transcend the earthly plane. In the heavenly realm, there will be no more death. No sickness, no pain, no suffering, no tears.
“He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”
Our grief is only temporary. We have a lot to be hopeful for. When you feel grief, remember God’s promises.